I sure thought like you many years ago. In 1964 I went to Greece on holidays. I am an Greek Australian and had held the views you express. In Greece I saw some incredible scenes that changed the way I was thinking. On one occasion I was at restaurant in a plaza and two cars collided near by in the street. It wasn't a bad collision, only some minor damage. The two drivers got out and for about 5 or 10 minutes abused the hell out of one another, verbally of course, waving their hands about like mad men. Many people stood around and watched, some cheered them on. Then when their anger was exhausted they got back into their cars and drove away calmly. I was taken aback. My new Greek acquaintances saw nothing wrong, in fact they were among the people who cheered them on. When I confronted them about it as you are here doing to me, they said "what do you expect them to do, hold in the anger? That is not healthy!" Even more dramatically on a train, (I don't know the situation now, but at that time train lines crossed the streets and trains stopped traffic sometimes). The train was stopped and I was sitting reading my book. I could hear a huge commotion outside so I got up and went to look out of the window. There was a long line of cars on the street far into the distance. I could see them as they were perpendicular to the train, which was obstructing them. Each driver was standing outside of their car with one hands leaning on their horns continuously and with the other waving in the air as they all yelled in a cacophony of sounds. I said to the person next to me, "what is going on". "Oh don't worry they are just sounding their frustrations at the train driver. He'll move off soon and they will all get back in their cars and drive away." I was told that "this was normal". In Australia this would have been seen as "off the wall", not acceptable at all. I agree that "It is healthy to love yourself" for sure, but I disagree with "and become more in tune with others". One cannot become more in tune with those that are haters. They seek to violate with impunity. One has to be able to stand up to these people. You can express anger in firm words and a stern manner. Also I disagree with "and learning to distance your self from potential feelings of threat." If you feel threatened chances are you are being threatened but again those that engage in this sort of behavior don't do so openly, at least the majority don't do so openly. Their aim is to violate the other and at the same time make them feel badly about expressing their anger. This is unhealthy because their anger ends up as ongoing bodily reactivity that leads to pain and suffering. I found that the best way to counter this is to stand your ground and to counter attack mentally. We can set directives to the universe to protect ourselves from those that seek to hurt or harm us. We have a right to defend ourselves and our children and property. I found that anger only promotes more suffering, when we don't express it properly. And it only leads to hate in those that are haters anyway. After I came back to Australia and since then I have allowed myself to express disapproval, disagreement and even anger, in an appropriate way and were I needed to oppose someone trying to violate me. I have no regrets for doing so. If I was to make a show of anger to someone who didn't deserve it I would feel regret but I would not abuse another in the first place. I also don't agree that it would lead to isolation and pain because anger has appropriate boundaries. Toxic people get angry for the sake of power and influence but humane people do not behave in this way. If someone is not threatening you and does not treat you unjustly why would you get angry with them. Clearly you wouldn't so the humane person maintains their friends and stands up to those that act unjustly. Bottom line, expressed appropriately, at the right time and for the right reasons, anger is good.