Recent content by Jules

Sorry I wasn't clear. The pain kicked off when my father was diagnosed with a terminal illness, but got worse when I was formally diagnosed with EDS and my daughter then felt validated in making me her pain buddy. (if that makes sense) It has stuck around because of the stresses compounded from...

My sister is an alternate Power of Attorney if something happens to me, but she has a worse relationship with my mother than I do, my twin brother works 14 hours a day 6 days a week, and my oldest brother is across the country. So, yeah, it was left up to me. I. Am. Exhausted. I believe my...

You're right I am making excuses and I need to work on that. I'm so used to being a people pleaser that my needs get put on the back-burner. One thing about my husband and I's relationship. It's been rocky and for the longest time, I tried to work on it. I went to therapy, read books, watched...

Thank you, Bloodmoon. The symptoms returned when my dad was diagnosed with his disease and I realized I would be needing to care for him until his death. He already came to live with us when he left my mom, due to emotional and mental abuse, but she is very manipulative and needed "care" for a...

Thank you so much, Cactus! First, EDS is genetic. Not only do me and my daughter have it, but so does my sister's daughter. She has the most severe, vascular EDS, while me and my daughter have the hypermobile kind. I'm pretty sure my youngest also has it, but she refuses to get diagnosed since...

Hi all, (warning: long) I used to frequent this site daily for years, and then I did the work and healed from chronic pain and anxiety. The support and help I got here was amazing. It was wonderful! But like always, life happens when you're making other plans. 😩 This past year has been very...

Thank you for your insights. Your story sounds an awful lot like mine. I was the youngest daughter (I have a twin brother) that she used for co-dependency. I was bullied as a child and she used that to keep me home so she had someone to watch soap operas with. (yeah) She has threatened divorce...

Thank you for your response. I am over-involved but I have no choice right now. My hope is that this new bed would help her pain and reflux and she could enjoy her life - however - I know my mom and know this isn't the end. I am trying to decide what is best. We just found out she hasn't been...

Hello, TMS Wiki Forum Members (whew), It's been nearly two years since I posted (I've been a member for eight and healed from decades of chronic pain), and boy-oh-boy, has TMS reared its ugly (well, protective) head! Warning: Long Here's the story: Nine months ago, my 82-year-old father left...

Jan, Thanks so much for your insights and suggestions (as always!) I did as you said and put all my feelings down on paper and that helped immensely! I also took out some of my rage and stress on cleaning out all of my closets while on Christmas vacation. That too helped, and even though my...

Hello my fellow TMSers, it's been a while! I wanted to update you all and also get some advice from our TMS experts/support team. Warning: long We are nearly into 2023 and time keeps ticking away, with many changes that are comfortable and some not so comfortable. Here is my update and things...

Hi Tara, The pain was due to a toxic work environment, so every night I dreaded waking up and going to work, so TMS flared and gave me pain, as well as nausea, so I wouldn't focus on my emotions, which I ultimately had to and quit my job. I no longer have the pain, so figure out what is...

Hi guys, It’s been some time since I’ve been on here. Been dealing with a lot of personal stuff, especially the after-effects of major oral surgery (All of 4 dental implants). I was doing so well and just need some clarification before I accept that this too is TMS. So, just some background...