Recent content by Chris GR

Wow, thank you all for such thoughtful, compassionate, and insightful answers. It's good to know that I don't have to continue this healing journey alone!! Best, Chris

Hi All, It's quite obvious that my biggest challenge with TMS is fear. I have a history of presenting with TMS symptoms, getting checked out, then having the pain disappear almost instantly, for years, sometimes to never return. For example, when studying for the bar exam I developed a...

Thanks Jan. What are your thoughts about releasing anger through journaling? Like writing about causing great harm, in graphic detail, to those who have hurt and wronged me in the past? Thanks,

Hi Jan, Today I found out I lost out on my dream job and I was a "close second" to the chosen candidate after endless interviews and anticipation. I felt intense rage and sorrow as I was driving home. My body was telling me to unleash the rage and sorrow so I let myself first cry then I...

Wow, really great advice. I never thought about the fact that my parents failed to protect me and that might be a cause of my TMS. Much appreciated Jan!

Hi All, My primary TMS symptom is testicular pain. I'm a bit confused about learning to "feel my feelings." My primary emotions are worry and anger. I have pretty good insight into their underpinnings: my mother is a very anxious person and I learned this from her as a child, and I have a...

Hi MicheleRenee, Congratulations on getting better! I've had chronic pelvic pain for decades, manifest in the testicle only. Sometimes the pain disappeared for years with no explanation. Since 2014 I've been struggling with finding the correct approach. Is this a physical problem or is it...

Thanks Sonic!

Funny you mentioned this, one of SEP days has you list things that help you prioritize yourself, and of course I listed playing video games, which I've done for over 30 years. While I have not had back pain while playing video games you would be surprised how tense your muscles can get...

O boy, if that's the case Sonic, can I express that anger in a meaningful way through journaling?

Hi Joe: I had this problem for a long time. I had painful orgasm and learned that it was part of my TMS, a conditioned response. The way you get over this is to eliminate the fear of the activity by not avoiding it and using Alan's concept of outcome independence. (Just as Dan mentioned above.)

Thanks Andy/Jan/Duggit! So much information to absorb, but I'm reading your posts over and over again until the messages really sink in.

Thanks Everyone! Honey Badger: I will definitely look into that book as I need to examine more the relationship I had with my parents as there were some issues. My father had a very bad temper and I'm sure this affected me. My mom while caring, was a very anxious person and I sensed and...