Does anyone else find that most people do not seem to be open to "really" listening? They talk about superficial things. Or if you tell them about painful feelings, they try to change your mind or reframe it as you "should" feel differently or you should understand from another point of view. (That's partly what got me into this mess - being TOO understanding). My dad is awful with this. When I last moved house, I told him how distressed I felt, and he kept saying "You have to be strong and get on with things". It was exasperating AND ANGERING even talking to him. I ended up saying "I am strong. I am getting on with things. But I am allowed to feel as well!" He is obviously one half of the reason I repress (other half is my mother, who you could never say anything to without it being "wrong"). I do struggle to find people to share genuine, deep feelings with without it being invalidated. I am an "in-the-moment" feeler. It is hard for me to reflect and feel pain. But I DO feel my feelings much more in the moment that something is upsetting or stressful. I am really feeling the need to express myself much more, and, I suppose for it to be heard and validated, something which I never had as a child. As a kid, when I was really upset, I sometimes talked myself through things, or I'd talk to my sister, or find a stray dog to talk to. I have definitely lost outlets for expression over the years. As a teenager, I wrote poetry, and read books or listened to music where I connected with the feelings, which somehow helped me feel not alone. After that, it was cutting and drowning my sorrows. I used to call my mother in my 20s, but since realising she is narcissistic and doesn't actually care about what's going on with me, I don't. My sister has also gone down that road and is impossible to talk to now without her "trumping" any story with her own. I do go to a fellowship meeting, but sharing for 5 minutes doesn't seem enough and is only useful if I've been directly "in-the-moment" just before the meeting. Same issue with counseling. I have lost a lot of friends through being debilitatingly ill and don't talk to many people anymore. I also struggle with reaching out as well due to huge trust issues. I have always been the "listening" friend as well, not the "talking about my own problems" person. Anyone been in the same boat and found answers or relief?