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Day 8 Progress

Discussion in 'Structured Educational Program' started by Jamie, Sep 19, 2012.

  1. Jamie

    Jamie New Member

    I really feel that there is a strong connection to the pain in my lower back and the issues I am facing with trying to have a baby and the thoughts like "there is something wrong with me, why is it happening for everyone else, I am not doing it right (I am not sure what other way there is to do it, but you get it). Being a massage therapist, it was easy to blame the pain on that (easy for the doctors too) but blaming didn't do anything for the actual pain. I have only recently started to accept that the pain is caused by the negative thought pattern and all of the emotions around this issue. The pain has subsided and I really feel like I am in control of it. In fact, I went to the batting cages yesterday and had a great time!

    I would love to know if anyone has any information or feedback on TMS and fertility. It seems that there is quite a large population of people with "unexplained infertility" and I have a feeling it could be related.
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  2. Imagyx

    Imagyx Peer Supporter

    Just something that comes to my mind in this matter:
    If you're really sure you want to have a baby, just let it happen.
    Don't think too hard on getting one, just enjoy the "process" as often as you like.
    Try to focus more on being lucky to have a husband who shares your feelings about a baby
    and live in the present. That's what I've learned from my journey so far, most important: Live now and neither in the undecided tommorow nor in the unchangeable past.
    If you're both physically healthy - and that's probably not to question when a first try failed - it will happen someday.

    Another thought:
    Do you have any worries about a baby ? Being a good mother, having the perfect child, having less time for yourself etc. ?

    I hope this helps a little, even coming from someone who's still green in that matter.

    I wish you the best.
  3. veronica73

    veronica73 Well known member

    Welcome Jamie!

    It sounds like you are really making connections between your physical health and emotions--great work!

    Isn't "stress" one of the big factors in inability to conceive? It makes sense that not only stress we know about but also our personality traits, repressed and suppressed feelings, etc. could also play a role.

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