Dear anger, Where are you? I only get to experience you when I talk to a family member about my mother. Getting in touch with you is supposed to be good for me but I know those conversations aren't. The last one was a little over a week ago when my father was once again pushing me to have a connection with her. He was talking about how tough it was for her and I agreed that it was tough for her but that I have a very difficult life too and I can't take on her problems. He couldn't see how distressing this call was for me- or if he could see it he didn't stop pushing. It's not like after I expressed how frustrating this was for me that I felt any physical relief or more in my body. I felt frustrated and misunderstood. Perhaps I didn't truly get in touch with you- and just frustration? There are times when I want to shout out, "stay away from me" to her and maybe even to my father. It sounds dramatic and childish. I had a therapist for a while that had me doing things like drawing (physical) boundaries, punching pillows, and saying things like that. I thought it was helpful for a while but like every therapy (physical and mental) that I've done its effects petered out after a while and left me with no tools that I could rely on. So, I don't know, stay away from me mom. You go your way and I'll go mine. I felt no relief from writing that- only exhaustion. ______________ Is there anyone in your life you feel wronged by? Write an Unsent Letter to this person, expressing your emotions, and then let the emotions pass away. Dear Dad, It would be good if for once in your life you could take a stand against my mother when she's hurting me or if you could recognize when your actions hurt me. You always say that you stick up for me when I'm not there. If that's true why can't you do it when I am there?