I just wrote a letter to a colleaque who is addicted to drugs and gambling. He also lies all the time. It is hard for me to work with him, because I am very angry at him, he throws away his life. This has to do with my 2 younger brothers who died of drugs at 21 and 24. Now he wants to quit his addiction, he is afraid to become very ill. I promised him to help wherever I can. (I am a social worker - not practicing at this moment) Now I am afraid that he does not want believe me, because I am a colleaque. And that's an issue. I'M AFRAID OF NOT BEING BELIEVED This I encounter throughout my life. I was discharged in my first job after 10 years of work. My boss at that time was trying to have a relation with me while he was married. I said no. Then he played a dirty game and I had to go. I never told the real reason because they would not believe me. I dared not tell my mother that my father has sexually abused me. She always said; I am glad your father does not do such a thing. When I told it anyway, hell broke loose. I feel that she has always known it and that's why she was so firmly in its judgment. Is this why I kept my mouth: afraid of not being believed? Or I kept my mouth for not hurting my father? Maybe both? With love, Rozie.