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Time2be
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Time2be

Well known member, Female, from Denmark

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  • My Story

    Hi everyone. I am new here. I need support to stick to the principles of TMS/MBS! I read some of the success stories about pelvic pain/bladder pain and I also read some of the last posts. So encouraging and helpful!
    Now, I live with pelvic pain/bladder/urethra pain for a long time, for 20 years. It started when I wrote my PhD. Of course I had all the diagnostics, nothing could be found. At that time I myself consulted a psychoanalytic therapist and continued psychotherapy for 7 years! Did it help? Yes and no. I did well for some years. No pain at all. Then, after my divorce, some years later, when I started to date again, the pain was also there again. Funny, during the divorce no pain (I do have an explanation for that ... ). The last 4 years were not so good, lots of periods with 3 months pain non stop, now also anxiety. New diagnostics. Result: no structural damage. They say I don't have interstitial cystitis. I have to explain that in Europe they diagnose IC only if there are pathological findings (Hunners, bleeding tissue etc.). I found a fantastic urologist in Germany (where I originally come from, I am living in Denmark since 16 years) , she is very much into psychosomatics and tells me I have to do my psychological work, overcome anxiety, learn to feel and live and throw myself into adventures. She also advocates yoga, which I learned. Since January this year I do the program of Dr. Schubiner described in Unlearn Your Pain. It's amazing and very helpful. I also moved into a new house in January, felt fantastic. And now, (June 2017) since 2 weeks, there it is again, the pain is back. I should be calm, telling myself that there must be a reason. And I know the reason:I am feeling alone! So, what I need is support to keep doing the program! To believe in it.
    The emotional stuff behind all this (the short version) : a mother that is always half depressed, mis-using me as a friend, telling me all her misery with my father. A father who is a hypochondriac, choleric, insecure, anxious, but also violent. My sister and me were on alert when he came home! My ex-husband a narcissist, using me to make a career in the academia. After major drama and psycho terror for one and a half years I left him. Good decision! Never regretted it! And then suddenly I was alone with myself. I pity myself a bit, and I am angry that I was so stupid to waste more than 20 years with a man who doesn't want to build a family, at least not with me. Do I forgive? I try to forgive me, but it's difficult. It feels like I took so many wrong turns in my life. It is difficult to find a new partner. I love my work, but it can also be demanding. I have always too many things to do, stress is normal.
    So, yes, I know there is a connection between my emotions, anxiety and bladder/pelvic pain. I also think I know it more specific. But still, I get periods of pain. And then it is so very difficult to be outcome independent. And then I think that there might be a bug or some other weird thing that causes this pain. Something doctors have not found yet. Rationally I know that this is nonsense. But, ... Anxiety and fear feed these kind of thoughts.
    I think this is enough for the first post. Sorry for the long winded story.
    Greetings from Denmark!!
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  • My Story

    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    Denmark
    Occupation:
    University teacher
    Introduction:
    I have pelvic pain/bladder pain since almost 20 years, had many diagnostic procedures and all tell me that I definitely doesn't have a structural damage (no classic IC) but muscle tension and anxiety related bladder pain. I am currently following 'Unlearn your pain' by Dr. Schubiner. I always had pain on and off. Now I want to get rid of it for good. But I need some help, sometimes support on the path I have chosen.
    Diagnoses:
    Chronic pelvic pain
    Hi everyone. I am new here. I need support to stick to the principles of TMS/MBS! I read some of the success stories about pelvic pain/bladder pain and I also read some of the last posts. So encouraging and helpful!
    Now, I live with pelvic pain/bladder/urethra pain for a long time, for 20 years. It started when I wrote my PhD. Of course I had all the diagnostics, nothing could be found. At that time I myself consulted a psychoanalytic therapist and continued psychotherapy for 7 years! Did it help? Yes and no. I did well for some years. No pain at all. Then, after my divorce, some years later, when I started to date again, the pain was also there again. Funny, during the divorce no pain (I do have an explanation for that ... ). The last 4 years were not so good, lots of periods with 3 months pain non stop, now also anxiety. New diagnostics. Result: no structural damage. They say I don't have interstitial cystitis. I have to explain that in Europe they diagnose IC only if there are pathological findings (Hunners, bleeding tissue etc.). I found a fantastic urologist in Germany (where I originally come from, I am living in Denmark since 16 years) , she is very much into psychosomatics and tells me I have to do my psychological work, overcome anxiety, learn to feel and live and throw myself into adventures. She also advocates yoga, which I learned. Since January this year I do the program of Dr. Schubiner described in Unlearn Your Pain. It's amazing and very helpful. I also moved into a new house in January, felt fantastic. And now, (June 2017) since 2 weeks, there it is again, the pain is back. I should be calm, telling myself that there must be a reason. And I know the reason:I am feeling alone! So, what I need is support to keep doing the program! To believe in it.
    The emotional stuff behind all this (the short version) : a mother that is always half depressed, mis-using me as a friend, telling me all her misery with my father. A father who is a hypochondriac, choleric, insecure, anxious, but also violent. My sister and me were on alert when he came home! My ex-husband a narcissist, using me to make a career in the academia. After major drama and psycho terror for one and a half years I left him. Good decision! Never regretted it! And then suddenly I was alone with myself. I pity myself a bit, and I am angry that I was so stupid to waste more than 20 years with a man who doesn't want to build a family, at least not with me. Do I forgive? I try to forgive me, but it's difficult. It feels like I took so many wrong turns in my life. It is difficult to find a new partner. I love my work, but it can also be demanding. I have always too many things to do, stress is normal.
    So, yes, I know there is a connection between my emotions, anxiety and bladder/pelvic pain. I also think I know it more specific. But still, I get periods of pain. And then it is so very difficult to be outcome independent. And then I think that there might be a bug or some other weird thing that causes this pain. Something doctors have not found yet. Rationally I know that this is nonsense. But, ... Anxiety and fear feed these kind of thoughts.
    I think this is enough for the first post. Sorry for the long winded story.
    Greetings from Denmark!!