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Please don't anyone give up. This has taken me a while to figure out too (more than 3 years). But for the past three days, I finally figured out that the only thing holding me back it FEAR!!!!! So as Alan told us in Day 13 or 14 (The Empowerment One) is just go for it. Not kill yourself, but start walking, standing and so forth. Keep saying "I'm not afraid of you anymore....no matter what you do I'm not afraid." Or some tips from Sarno himself: "I will not allow my life to be controlled or impaired by pain/fear." I substituted fear because fear is the main culprit. I'm in day 3 or 4 of doing that, and am doing much better. Another thing Alan said is "don't worry about the pain." You defiantly stand up to the FEAR (not the pain)....for some reason it makes a difference. Diss the pain/fear....curse to it if you have to. The somatic soothing really helps also when you just need to comfort yourself...to tell yourself you're OK. I use two sides of my mind...the conscious side as my rational comforting friend. Like many of us we had childhood issues and we didn't get what we needed. We needed to protect ourselves, because no one else would. We become hard on ourselves and expect too much of ourselves. So the soothing is to say..."hey you're going to be OK because I'm (conscious mind) here to take care of you....sounds weird, but works. AND be patient with yourself. We are all stronger than we think while at the same time, we need to comfort ourselves. I hope this helps others!!!! Feel good!