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Hey @Sunrise yes the ear thing cleared up. It's always the same stuff for me in different guises - fear of abandonment. When TMS flares up, and it does it a lot in different ways, I do a number of things:

Listen to Sarno a lot
Listen to podcasts on TMS recovery
Listen to Steve Ozanich and his Wall of Victory youtube videos
Look for the inner conflict, where am I enraged? It's not usually the obvious stuff, it's the icky, shameful stuff that's uncomfortable to acknowledge.
I track back the previous few days to see where I've been triggered
I do some vagus nerve activation stuff
I repeat Sarno's 12 daily reminders
I put my hand on my heart and tell my inner child that he's ok and that I'm here and I'm in charge and in control of the situation
I try to up soothing - time on my own, chocolate, a movie, video games
Increase physical activity - cycle (I hate walking, it's too boring!!), hard gardening, gym
I listen to all the speakers who remind me NOT TO PANIC and to not FEAR the pain/symptom
I try to be true to myself. This is hard because I grew up learning that I had to disavow my own feelings and needs
I find a compassionate person to listen to me without offering advice. This allows me to activate my compassionate brain. This is very important
I re read Steve O's message to me - "stop trying to heal. There's nothing physically wrong so there's nothing to heal"
Compassion, compassion, compassion.
If I can get to where I can cry (big sobby chest cries) that's the best!!