I don’t want to challenge Dr. Sarno’s ground breaking work but consider this. It is well accepted in psychology that behind the emotions of: frustration – shame – grief – anger and rage is the core emotion of Hurt. When I came home at age 8 and found my father was packing to leave the family I was not initially angry, I was hurt, then sad then angry. When I found my former wife having an affair I was at first hurt then angry. Hurt precedes these other emotions and anger can be a smoke screen to deny hurt. In fact in psychology when we teach assertiveness skills you don’t report the anger you report the hurt. So when your friend stands you up, you can go to anger and risk a confrontation or you can report the core emotions: “ I am really hurt you forgot our date.” So as I begin this work and look at all the disappointments I feel the need to go deeper than anger and rage and see the source of hurt and feel how it hurt! I also suspect that since it is our inner child that is a prime emotional part, that mine is really pissed that I have allowed all this unfelt emotional energy to be heaped on him and he is not having any more of it.