Things have been going so well... But I have just had a frank face to face discussion with my mother-in-law and although I feel better because I aired my views and worries about the situation. I know that she will feel awful and make herself feel sick and be miserable. I have hardly ever been able to air my opinion with my in-laws because they have a total avoidance attitude to anything that isn't happy/fun. But as the situation impacts on us all and as it is their welfare at stake I really wanted them to understand the import. But I just know that they will ignore the 'meat' of the situation and just focus on the 'oh it's so miserable' part. worse still I have no support cos the husband is parascending g in Nepal (jumping off mountains is FAR easier than dealing with family!) I expect they will follow their course and end up regretting it - which is what usually happens. I will have to make happy with them and bite my tongue and the whole cycle continues.... Does anyone else have relatives like this? What can I do or not do? Or is my present action the correct one? ie Let them think/feel what they will, I have said my piece (nicely) I am responsible for me not for their emotional fall out. And down a large G&T.....!