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Whether this feeling can cause TMS?

Discussion in 'General Discussion Subforum' started by Raj s, Sep 17, 2014.

  1. Raj s

    Raj s Peer Supporter

    I was showing angry to a particular person.. to whom i shld have shown love.. i really feel sorry for watever i did till date to that person...i should have stepped up in so many instances in support of that person instead i was in the other side.. I came across this when i was journaling.. whether this feeling can cause TMS?
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  2. Tennis Tom

    Tennis Tom Beloved Grand Eagle

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  3. Ellen

    Ellen Beloved Grand Eagle

    I agree with TT. Yes, what you describe can cause TMS. Whenever there is internal conflict there is the possibility of TMS. Anytime we use or think the word "should" , that is a like a neon sign pointing the way to TMS.
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  4. Walt Oleksy (RIP 2021)

    Walt Oleksy (RIP 2021) Beloved Grand Eagle

    I agree that internal conflicts, how we may show anger to someone instead of compassion or love can cause TMS.
    The friendlier we are to each other, the better.
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  5. JanAtheCPA

    JanAtheCPA Beloved Grand Eagle

    Thanks, Ellen for pointing out the "should" in Raj's post - this is a clue, isn't it?

    The next step, Raj, is to forgive yourself for your behavior! We are only human, our brains automatically protect us in our interactions with others, because our brain is always scanning for danger - in other words, our brains are behaving negatively unless we are very conscious and aware and working hard to NOT behave negatively. This is not easy!

    As long-time member Lori has told us many times, don't "should" on yourself! ;) (click on her name for Lori's story and recommendations)

    You're on the right track, Raj.

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  6. Raj s

    Raj s Peer Supporter

    Thanks everyone :)
  7. Forest

    Forest Beloved Grand Eagle

    I agree that it definitely can. Anything that "winds you up" inside can cause TMS. Sometimes listening to your body to see if our heart is beating a little faster, signaling the engagement of the Autonomic Nervous System (ANS) and the stress response is enough to figure out if TMS is engaged. Other times, you just have to trust yourself and attentively listen to your conscious emotions and feelings.

    In all of the posts I've read, so much of the key to TMS treatment has been figuring out what "winds us up," and then allowing ourselves to "unwind," so that we can dissipate our tension. Tension, after all, is the first word in Dr. Sarno's original name for the disorder!

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