I wish I had a dollar for each time since 2011 that a newcomer to this forum has made the claim that they aren't anxious. My older half-sister with the mysterious heart palpitations was the most recent person in my life who made this claim and when I repeated it to her two adult sons they both just rolled their eyes.
You're not alone in this denial of the obvious,
@mikeinlondon! If you want to make real changes you're going to have to accept that anxiety is not just normal, but that it is hard-wired into us. Without anxiety we would never have survived to become the apex predator of the planet.
The problem now is how badly this works for us in the modern world.
All the many forms of TMS go hand-in-hand with excessive, irrational and unnecessary anxiety. We could even call it EIU Anxiety. The number of people with EIU Anxiety has been quietly on the rise for decades, and very obviously on the rise in the most recent ten years, which is why Nicole Sachs says we are now experiencing an epidemic of fear-based symptoms.
Denial is just another form of repression, and the work we take most seriously here is based in the truth about Dr Sarno's theory of emotional repression. And it is my firm belief that you can't do the emotional work required to deal with unconscious emotional repression if EIU anxiety is taking the place of rational mindfulness.
If listening to the audio book of
Hope and Help for Your Nerves did not make an emotional impression, you might need to get the book and read it more slowly, allowing yourself to be vulnerable to the ideas she presents and how they relate to your experience. I seriously don't know of any better resource for conquering anxiety, even though it was written in 1969 and even though the language is a bit quaint. Dr Weekes simply gets to the heart of anxiety without wasting time, and provides the easy tools needed to control it.
Emotional experiencing is required in order to do this work effectively for the long term. It has to be absorbed much deeper than just intellectual understanding.