If I had the opportunity for a do over I would have severed ties with my parents before I had kids. As a daughter, grand-daughter, niece this makes me feel guilty. As a mom, having not done it until my children were grown makes me feel guilty and really devasted. I did not fully realize the damage I had allowed until the situation was changed. My kids talked with their father and I about it as we went along, but after I severed ties we were all able to see our relationships with them more clearly. So, I feel bad about all the pain for my family.