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What I did today

Discussion in 'Structured Educational Program' started by birder, Jan 15, 2018.

  1. birder

    birder Well known member

    I did something today that I would not have done if not for the exercises I've been working through here. It was very, very difficult. I sat down with my teen this morning and talked to him about both his feelings and my own feelings regarding the divorce and how it was fracturing our family. And I cried (we both did). I'd never cried in front of my kids before, except when our dog died. And I told him his feelings were valid and so was his pain and anger and sorrow, and that I was here for him when he needed to let it out. I think he felt better. I still have pain, but I feel better too.
     
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  2. JanAtheCPA

    JanAtheCPA Beloved Grand Eagle

    That took courage, birder. What a good mom you are to him - and you're being just as good to yourself. Great work.
     
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  3. iwire

    iwire Peer Supporter

    What a brave, loving and painful thing to do. I hope the relief you find in having opened your heart will move you forward in your healing--it is certainly the kind of thing that I hear often does. Sending you love and strength. . . .
     
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  4. Lizzy

    Lizzy Well known member

    Birder,
    I am inspired by taking the think psychological to your son. May this be one of many benefits learning about tms brings your family. You're changing your world!
    Lizzy
     
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  5. birder

    birder Well known member

    Thank you so much for your encouragement, Jan, iwire, and Lizzy. I hope I've helped him. It just suddenly came to me that I was avoiding the elephant in the room because that's what I learned from my own childhood, where feelings weren't expressed. I've been carrying such a burden of guilt and shame around, feeling like I've failed my kids because my marriage failed. And wondering why my body seemed to be breaking down. Kind of an ah-ha moment. But still hard as hell.
     
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