Hey All, I have been a TMSer for a very long time. Started with migraines when I was 13, then minor back pain in my early 20's, debilitating anxiety also in my 20's, then pelvic pain (vulvodynia / pudendal neuralgia) 5 years ago. Over the past 2 years my pain has decreased slowly but surely. While I'm not 100% pelvic pain free, I was doing pretty much everything I did before pelvic pain (minus sitting on wood, metal, concrete without a cushion and still slightly flaring from those moments). Three weeks ago I came down with serious low back pain. I tried everything, icing, heating, massage, chiropractor, advil, muscle relaxers, & finally steroids (which has helped some) but it still remains. I really thought it was physical because it was my SI joints that got inflamed (I have arthritis in them). I wrote Alan and asked him is this was TMS and he & Dr. Shubiner said YES. I started to think to myself, did I have a lot of emotional stuff going on when it happened? BIG TIME. Multiple situations. So I'm right back where I was with the pelvic pain (which has ALSO flared up). My brain is now doing the FEAR BASED thing of "If you bend over, lift something, walk for too long, stand for too long, sit for too long ----- you will make it worse" I'm back in that cycle and need to get out of it. My body does not react well to Dr. Sarno's version of -- Get back to ALL activities right away. I need to go at a slower pace. So my question is..... when doing simple things like bending over to pick something up, lifting your adorable 18 pound Dachshund onto the couch because he's older and has arthritis in his back (maybe he has TMS too? haha), doing laundry, etc what do you tell your brain to unlearn the pain? I was thinking of some affirmations like.... I am safe This is a perfectly healthy movement My back is strong and healthy Would love suggestions and input........TIA!