I'm glad I was helpful. I think pain meds the same way most (the good ones anyway) psychoanalysts view anti-depressant/anxiety meds. None of them are the "solution" or the "cure", that's not their intended purpose when they're used correctly. The problem is that people tend to "feel" so much better (of course they do, they're "feeling" so much less) that the patient themselves views the med as the "cure". The trouble is that just treating the symptoms can never be a cure, in order to recover from the problem you have to treat the source. The meds are helpful in the sense that they help to make the symptoms manageable while we do the hard work (which truly might be impossible for some without the meds) of learning to manage the cause.
Sounds like your husband is a victim of his own conditioning. He loves you and he just wants your pain to be gone as quickly as possible. It's wonderful that he believes in TMS, but his belief is also limited by his own understanding. Unless he's experienced it himself I doubt he can fully appreciate it. I know my own husband is very much as you've described yours. My husband read Dr. Sarno's book. He did it for me actually. I was such a mess, mentally and physically, when I read it, I didn't trust my own judgement. I thought it made a lot of sense but I asked him to read it and tell me if it made sense to a sane, rational person (I had serious doubts that I qualified as either at the time). He read it, reluctantly. His reluctance was that he thought it was possible if he learned about it, it might happen to him. I got him to read it by telling him that from what I understood it was quite the opposite and that if he learned about it he'd be less likely to experience it. Anyway, the point to all of this is that even though he read it, and he's been very supportive and completely believes it is the root of my issues, when it comes to himself he's not 100% convinced. Maybe you just want to thank your husband for his concern and his suggestion but let him know that right now you want to give try the TMS approach a try. Remind him that you've already tried those other routes without the desired results so right now you're wanting to try something much cheaper and most likely far more effective. After all, you've got nothing to loose here but your pain.