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TMS sent me a message...I listened

Discussion in 'General Discussion Subforum' started by levfin003, Sep 25, 2015.

  1. levfin003

    levfin003 Peer Supporter

    As I continue my healing from TMS, I realize that TMS was desperately trying to send me a message. My subconscious was screaming its lungs out, asking me to alter my people-pleasing behaviour and be more assertive about my needs. The good thing is that I listened. I hope that this would allow me to bring positive change in my life, and of those who are important to me, and leave behind those who I have been unsuccessfully trying to please for ages (abusive father and his family).
     
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  2. Walt Oleksy

    Walt Oleksy Beloved Grand Eagle

    Hi, Levfin. This is terrific. You know that TMS is causing your symptoms. You are dealing with your "goodist" people-pleasing self and are sorting out who to please and who to stop pleasing.

    Anyone who is abuse to others, like your father and his family, don't deserve your efforts. It you can't take care of your own needs, you won't be able to help those who deserve it. Be kind to yourself and it will help you to be kind to others who deserve it.
     
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