What is going on in my mind that keeps me from resting, so that I my body needs to create symptoms to make me slow down? Is a great question. You may be familiar with TMS work, but have you been able to put its practices into your daily life? Are the things you want to do: sports, socialize on your own etc in line (in your subconscious) with having a family? Currently, you become more stressed when something (like a symptom) stops you from doing things away from home. Perhaps you also realize a family will keep you at home more, or at least your social and sporting life may be very different for a time. None of this is a problem unless it just generates an unconscious internal struggle of things like personal values or identity. I like to remember that I always have a 3 year old ego (subconscious) inside of me tantruming “me! me! me!” and “I wanna!!!!!!!” - especially when my self-identity had always denied this hidden part of my mind (or deemed it ‘bad’).