I can't believe Anna, Its like you are reading my mind. I have been needy too. My ex husband always belittled me for my appearance in reality I am not that bad looking LOL. So for my self esteem i needed it as an assurance. Now that my hair is falling so badly I am exhausted of worrying and I am not happy about cutting it short but getting there now. I have craved for ling hair and never wanted to cut. And its been the longest now in my lifetime, sadly TMS is attacking my precious gem. I have had chronic myofascial pain and drs never could reason why, thus they never recommended surgery. At that time i hated the fact that medically they could not find anything wrong and so i was not a candidate for surgery since i though surgery could fix me. today I laugh at that thought and thank my stars for there being NO reason for my pain BUT just TMS.