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This is the sneakiest type of anxiety...

Discussion in 'General Discussion Subforum' started by livelife2bepainfree, Jan 5, 2021.

  1. livelife2bepainfree

    livelife2bepainfree Peer Supporter

    Do you know the worst type of anxiety?

    The most counterintuitive?

    The most disguised?

    The happiness anxiety!

    Is there such anxiety?

    Oh yes!

    Here’s how it works:

    When you suffer from low self-esteem and something good happens in your life… you may feel happy but also confused…

    “Hold on… that’s not how things usually are for me!”

    “That’s really cool but round the corner, it’s going to be really awful!”

    Joy creates conflict with your deepest views of yourself.

    And this triggers anxiety!

    So, how do you overcome this anxiety?

    By sabotaging yourself and reducing joy.

    And you end up back in control.

    “I knew it was too good to be true”.

    Homeostasis. Equilibrium. Business as usual.

    This behaviour is rational. When you die by your own hand, at least you’re still in control.

    You spare yourself the anxiety of waiting for destruction by somebody else.

    Now that you know how it works—go back to your life and carefully observe.

    It’s hard to spot, so pay close attention.

    What should you do?

    Get through today without undermining your good feelings.

    If anxiety kicks in, accept the anxiety too. Observe it. Let it go.

    Let the good feelings come back.

    Being mindful of this sneaky process that used to go on unconsciously is always the first step friend.

    Loving you, Angelos
  2. PsychePsyche

    PsychePsyche New Member

    Hold up, I'm puzzled. How to achieve it naturally?
  3. livelife2bepainfree

    livelife2bepainfree Peer Supporter

    Hey PsychePsyhe, practice this:

    First of all, now that you know how the happiness anxiety works, I'm sure you can catch it on its game.

    Next time you experience anxiety when things are going "unreasonably well", first welcome the anxiety! Don't fight it!

    There is an unconscious part of you that wants to protect you, to make sure you're safe and well.

    Observe the thoughts with non-judgmental curiosity.

    Your unconscious communicates with you through feelings and sensations in the body.

    Focus all your attention on those feelings and sensations.

    You may catch yourself try to rationalise or compare yourself to others or escape these thoughts—"I shouldn't feeling like that, look at you things are going well and you're not grateful,etc."

    Welcome all those thoughts too! It's OK to have these thoughts.

    And then go back to those feelings and bodily sensations.

    Mmmmm... "I'm feeling x, y, z.... oh here's some tension.... scan all your body for any type of sensations, you'll find a lot there"

    Practice this every day. You'll get better with practice.

    The point is to get familiar with those feelings and sensations that anxiety produces without having to reduce the joy as I said earlier. ;)

    Hope this helps, Angelos

    And a tip from neuroscience: When you feel anxious your cognitive abilities are compromised BUT the part of your brain that helps you sense bodily sensations is never compromised irrespective of the level of the stress arousal. So you have a channel always accessible there for you to communicate with your unconscious.
    Looking for space likes this.

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