The main 3 things that marked me as an individual were as follows: I was being told I wasn't wanted as a child, my father was an alcoholic, he died before we could resolve our issues. Since I know a little bit about TMS already, I can add that other stressful events contributed to my situation. My husband and I recently moved from one country to another and had to start over, now we have to move again, and start over again. As a third big thing, I think my mind is so conditioned to be tense and anticipate the unknown that it is sometime hard to get at the end of the day normal. I never learned how to let go of things I cannot control. It is an effort now to at least try and recognize the situation when I keep everything in.