Has anyone out there read the book The Courage to Be Disliked? I just started the audiobook and something in it totally reminded me of TMS. The format is a skeptic debating with a wise man about the wise man's contention that the world is actually a simple place and we make it complicated. They discuss the skeptic's friend who can't leave the house because of anxiety. And then: Wise man: Your friend is insecure, so he can't go out. Think about it the other way around: He doesn't want to go out. So he's creating a state of anxiety. Skeptic: Huh? WM: Think about it this way: Your friend had the goal of not going out beforehand and he's been manufacturing a state of anxiety and fear as a means to achieve that goal. In Adlerian psychology, this is called teleology. S: You're joking! My friend has imagined his anxiety and fear? So, would you go so far as saying my friend is just pretending to be sick? WM: He's not pretending to be sick. The anxiety and fear your friend is feeling are real. On occasion he might also suffer from migraines and violent stomach cramps. However, these, too, are symptoms that he has created in order to achieve the goal of not going out. I look forward to the rest of the book, especially since I currently lack the courage to be disliked (a big time people-pleaser). Hope you're all doing well. I was a regular on this site for a couple of years but my TMS symptoms ("sciatica", back and leg pain) have been under control for almost two years now. I'm even back to weekly basketball! I wish you all the best!