My children's pre-school is teaching children strategies for 'dealing' with anger and other emotions. The other day they learned a little saying, "When you feel the monster in your tummy, breathe through your nose and all the way down to your toes and count to ten!" The kids love it. I suppose they do this to teach the kids not to use violence when they are angry but are sayings/strategies like this a healthy way of dealing with anger or is this repressing anger? I am clearly clueless in this area. I was told off for shouting or expressing anger as a child. I also find myself telling my children not to shout at someone when they are angry, to just say what is the problem in a calm voice or stamp their feet and come and ask for help from an adult. Is that the right thing to do?