Part of my problem seems to be that I internalize other people's problems too much to the point that it gives me TMS. At the moment I'm going through a rough patch. I just got off the phone with my closest friend. We grew up together and know all about each other's problematic childhoods. I told her everything I was going through and this made me feel a bit better. She then told me she's going through her own stuff and cried as she told me the details. Even though I'm having a hard time right now, I feel so bad for her and it's already made my pain, which had calmed a bit, flare up. How do I protect myself from taking on her emotional pain or other people's ? I think this tendency has something to do with how I grew up as a parentified child and saw all the adults in my life suffering emotionally.