Hi TMS universe! I've been a TMS Wiki lurker/reader for a long time, but it's my first post on here, so go easy on me. I'm Laura, and I am a recovered/ recovering TMS sufferer who apparently didn't know what "forgiveness" meant up until the past year. Growing up, I always thought that someone had to "earn" your forgiveness and be grateful for it when it came. Obviously, that belief led me to hold onto several long-term grudges and victim stories. As it turns out, my crazy ex didn't care to earn my forgiveness... so I spent years holding onto it, letting it simmer inside myself instead. Whoops. One of the biggest transformation moments for me was reading Dr. Fred Luskin's book "Forgive For Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness." He's actually done some work with chronic pain sufferers and research on the physical impact of 'unforgiveness' in your body. If you haven't checked it out, I highly recommend it. His work has been extremely helpful for me in my healing journey. Anyway... I had a fangirl moment last week and actually got to interview Dr. Luskin for the podcast that I host, "Like Mind Like Body." If you have 30 minutes, check out the interview! Before (or after) you listen, though... I'm curious to hear how you guys define forgiveness? Dr. Luskin's view is so different from how I was raised that it makes me wonder how many different viewpoints are out there (and which ones have been most helpful/ unhelpful in actually releasing pain)?