I've tried numerous approaches to dealing with my subC. I believe that it thought it had my best interests at heart in keeping me from feeling painful emotions. However, that makes me angry because I wasn't given a choice in that scenario. I've tried embracing it as if it's a child, but that didn't lead to abatement of pain for me. Instead, I seem to have most success with the direct approach. "Get the hell out of my ________(back, head, feet etc.)" I then tell it that I'm capable of dealing with the feelings. [The frustrating part for me is that I rarely know what I'm stressing over. However, as far as pain relief goes, it often doesn't matter whether or not I can identify the issue.] Finally, so that I don't get in a feedback loop fearing even more pain, I challenge my subC to "bring it on." I'm a big believer in trying numerous approaches until you find something that works. Hope you find a tool that works for you, James.