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Sexual Dysfunction/Zero Sex Drive

Discussion in 'General Discussion Subforum' started by beep, Nov 10, 2019.

  1. beep

    beep New Member

    I've basically 'solved' nearly all my TMS symptoms. And changed my relationship with the symptoms. I don't really have any lasting ones any longer EXCEPT ED/No sex drive. I'm a 24 year old male, perfectly healthy, run 30+ miles a week, zero physical ailments.

    I always thought it was because of porn due to reading these online forums like r/nofap. But I'm starting to think that porn is only partially a problem and that TMS is far more likely the culprit in my case. Evidence being that all my friends watch porn, some multiple times a day, and they do not experience ED. And that I've had probably a dozen TMS symptoms, so why not sexual dysfunction both in the physical sense and in the mental sense as another TMS equivalent.

    Plus at this point I have so much guilt/shame/anxiety around sex, fear around the symptoms, total avoidance of women at this point due to multiple embarassing instances in the past. And these are spot on the way someone with TMS relates to a TMS symptom. (Fear, negative emotions, etc.)

    This has been the hardest one to break. And there is still some doub tin my mind. I'm unsure why. Maybe because the 'porn induced erectile dysfunction theory' stuck to me so well after years of reading these forums and hearing from only people with this 'condition'.

    Anyway, does anyone have any similar experience overcoming sexual dysfunction or some advice? It is honestly a terrifying thing to me. That vulnerability to 'fail' with another person, another sexual experience ending in frsutration and feeling powerless. And my greatest fear is that I'll never be normally sexually and never experience a loving relationship again due to this flaw. (First relationship was great, but sex always was an issue for me with sexual dysfunction throughout. Ended after two years due to moving away from one another.)

    Thanks for reading and thanks for the help in advance.
     
  2. birdsetfree

    birdsetfree Well known member

    This does sound like mainly TMS to me. The porn is distracting you from facing the fear of sex with a present woman. The fact that you have had TMS in other forms adds weight to the psychological nature of your ED. I would work on diminishing gradually your exposure to porn and improving your relationship mainly with yourself and then with others. I would start with compassion and empathy towards yourself. This has obviously been traumatic.
     
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