After listening to the first part of Alan's program I cannot believe how mean I have been to myself. I thought everyone had the kind of internal thoughts that I have. When he said, would you treat your child that way, it hit home. I love my children so much, there is no way on earth I would tolerate the level of criticism I afflict on myself on them. I cannot recall a time when I was a child where my Mom or Dad protected me or comforted me when I was upset. I became such a tough girl. I remember being upset one time when I first married my wonderful husband he wanted to hold me and I said no, he said why won't you let me hold you? I have never known why I didn't let people comfort me when I have been upset, it always felt wrong.