I'm in a quandary. Having learnt that repressing my emotions causes pain - I am now trying to deal with family/relationship problems by facing up to them and dealing with them. But I am in a situation where I do not want to be bullied any more by a family member. She is set in a pattern of her own and although I have tackled her about it she will not listen. I feel that I do not want to see her at all really - or at least not often. But the rest of the family revolves around her and the parents want us all to do things together very often. It is always on her terms and she organises everyone. I want to opt out but by doing so my in-laws would get really upset. Which is why I have not opted out but let it go on the last 27 years! She now wants to ratchet up even more time 'together ' as the parents are getting older - and it makes my blood run cold... ! What should I do? Cause my parents-in-law grief or suck it up and feel like crap myself? Is there any other way?