Hi iv struggled with anxiety for years but until I met my current partner 4 years ago, I never had pain. From day 1 I didn't have a good feeling about things, but persevered due to a number of factors and after 4 months she fell pregnant. The pressure of this added to things and I stayed in the relationship. I had periods of no pain due to learning about it and not being too concerned with it being serious, but I kind of fluctuated between pain and anxiety. We have a 4 year old daughter and I recently ended things because they have never felt right. I'm in more pain now and my anxiety is through the roof, which I know is completely normal. I still care for her and have worries about her meeting someone else, and feelings of jealousy when she goes out etc. Again I know this is normal and i'm not concerned about the pain. Iv had girlfriends in the past and always fell head over heals for them, before things went wrong (after the honeymoon period). I now know this is my issue and have done a lot of inner critic work to the point where i'm, hopeful that when I get into another relationship, I will be able to deal with the inner doubt and not listen to my critic. My mum and dad didn't have a loving relationship and stayed together for me, so I kow it's all linked. My question is, do you think my current situation is due to my insecurities and lack of self love, or does it sound like i'm doing the right thing by breaking with my current GF? I'm having serious doubts, as I thought i'd done the right thing, but now i'm wondering if it's all down to me and my insecurities? So confused. I cant tell the difference between whether my body/inner being has been warning me to get out, or whether its a self defense mechanism because of how I am. The only difference between this situation and previous ones, is at least I had a good feeling about the previous relationships from the start, this one I definitely didn't.