I've found myself speaking up when the situation merits and some family members are struggling with my new found voice. I am not rude or mean, I speak the truth and facts without personal jabs or judgement statements. I once heard you can't argue with logic or a crazy person ! I reassure myself that they will get used to it, but if they don't ... that's o.k. I am giving up the need for them to be o.k., so that therefore, I will be o.k. I am not going to micro-manage to ensure things go smooth. It's a lot of work and the price is too high to be paid anymore. Sometimes I don't speak my mind and I just focus and let the feelings move through me so they don't get stuck in my body. I don't have to say something every single time ... I can process inside my head, I can process in journaling, or I can process by speaking my mind and having a conversation. I don't like to argue. Some family members are so sensitive / insecure that they shift from conversation straight to arguing because they have gotten used to dominating and controlling the situation with their effective angry responses. In the past it shut people down. This energy dynamic has shifted and it isn't packing the punch it used to ... I wonder what new coping mechanisms will be deployed on me next ? LOL ! Just like the symptom imperative, they will look for a new way to express their pain.