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Realistic optimism to counteract the brain's 'negativity bias'...

BloodMoon

Beloved Grand Eagle
Thought I'd share following which is from https://www.positive.news/lifestyle/five-practical-ways-to-feel-better-and-make-a-difference/ (Five practical ways to feel better and make a difference)

"Be a realistic optimist

Our brains are wired to focus on what’s wrong. It’s called the ‘negativity bias’, and it’s why one awkward comment can stick with us all day, while lots of good things pass unnoticed. That instinct helped our ancestors survive, but today it can leave us stuck in worry and frustration. The answer isn’t forced positivity or pretending everything’s fine. Life is messy and often really hard.

Instead, we can practise realistic optimism: seeing things as they are, while choosing to focus on what helps. A simple trick is to use the word ‘and’. ‘This is difficult and I can take a step forward.’ ‘I feel anxious and I’m grateful for my friends.’ You’re not ignoring reality, you’re expanding it. That builds hope and resilience."
 
I love this! Focusing on the best instead of the worst has actually helped me handle situations with a more proactive attitude and become a stronger negotiator.

"I'm not comfortable/happy/satisfied with this situation, but there ARE options for me" is a common thought in my head.
 
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