I've been reading Freedom From Fibromyalgia by Nancy Selfridge and Franklynn Peterson, and I just finished reading the chapter on anger. I was hoping it would clear some things up for me, but I actually feel even more confused than before. At one point in the chapter, they say this: "What's the absolute number one best way to avoid storing up anger? Get angry! Get assertive! Interact!" Four pages later, under the heading "Change the way you think when you're angry," they say: "Instead of telling yourself, 'It's the most awful thing ever,' 'It's humiliating,' or 'I get all the blame,' use less damaging expressions like, 'It's frustrating,' 'It's silly,' or 'Getting angry will only make it worse.'" So...which is it? To get angry or not to get angry? It's especially confusing because I've been going over whether or not I should express my anger at someone in particular that I live with. About a year ago, he went to rehab after about ten years of alcoholism, and he asked me recently if I have things I want to say to him about it. Another family member talked to him about their perspective, and it seems like the conversation went well for them, but I don't feel comfortable doing the same. I have plenty of anger towards him stored up over the years, but I don't trust that he'll listen to me or change his actions, so I feel like trying to talk to him would just be a miserable experience with no payoff. Then again, journaling and meditation hasn't done anything for my anger so far, so maybe I need to do something like that for myself? I can't decide.