I have found exploring our own personality traits very useful. Up until this program, I had never given much thought to this area of myself except for the generalities people tell you. Discovering my own traits that match the typical TMS sufferer, has helped a lot. And then stepping further into that realm and seeing how these personality traits may have negatively affected my life has been useful. I have been called passive-aggressive in the past by family members, and summarily rejected the idea. I now know it to be true. Not the end of the world, but true. After thinking about it further, it probably stems from never having being given the tools or language to express my emotions or frustrations, as they arose. I was loved but the message was clear, don't complain because many others have it worse. I can appreciate the moral, but we do need to learn to express our disappointment with others and situations in a way that is clear but not impatient or overly assertive. I have started paying attention to what others say when they feel neglected or unhappy and hope to learn from it. I have been acting out, versus just expressing myself. I know I don't have the language for it, but it is out there and I can probably learn pretty quick. Interesting enough, when people have issues with me I am completely open and willing to compromise. For myself, another story.