Hi all, I recently found my family members have many chronic pain but never told me about it seriously. Some of the symptoms were even severer than mine, but they have been just living with them as the pain is not there. They have pain time to time, sometimes severe but sometimes none, but they do not think it's any fatal. I came to think that their pain is not growing whether or not it's TMS because they genuinely know how to just ignore them and not get stressed. I am the eldest child with a sister and a brother after me, and my dad and I have typical TMS perfectionist personality alike. He is even more perfectionist than I am, but he knows he sometimes needs to let things go. My dad recently started having mild back pain and tinnitus. He has angina pectoris, too (both genetic and stress-related). On the other hand, my mom and my younger sister are the very ones who are not supportive of my pain journey. We even had a big argument over the pains I have. They said they were sick of my whining about my pain all over. They don't understand why I can't just ignore. They are such a not-TMS type of people; more detail follows. (FYI, they don't know TMS concept at all) My mom, I think, has a very ideal personality--she does everything what she needs to, but she can also ignore what doesn't have to bother her. She had severe sacroiliac joint issue every time she gave birth, and it took much longer than average women for her to recover. She admitted it had been the biggest fear for her when having a baby, but she anyway had 3 babies even though she had known she would have such extreme pain. She injured her wrist two years ago while moving a extremely heavy thing, but did not even go to doctor. She just assumed some ligament was out and waited because she believes in the auto-curing power of human body. She said, "It all gets better slowly but gradually. If not, then it's either psychological or a fatal thing." She still feels pain time to time, but she does not limit her physical activity. She does house works, bowling, driving, etc. even though there is some pain. The only complaint that I heard from her continuously was pain and annoyance from menopausal symptoms. She was annoyed then because it's rather a hormonal issue that she doesn't know where it goes. But she's not complaining about it anymore since it's gone over time, too. She told me "If it doesn't kill, then that's all okay." My sister is rather too loose. She often misses her responsible works, but she forgets about it soon. She recently told me she often had too much hip & groin pain to walk, and she said "Then I just resolve it by snapping the joint open & close." This amazed me because I would rather be anxious and horrified if that happens to me. She just deals with it as a normal daily thing. She thinks it'll go away over time--if not, it won't get worse. She had RSI on her wrist that made her wear a wrist wrap for a month. She also didn't have a limitation on doing physical activities. She's now with mild soreness on her wrists that does not bother her at all. I believe TMS can happen to any people. I think some of the symptoms my family had could be TMS, too. However, whether or not their pain symptoms were TMS, it seems their let-go personality doesn't just feed the pain cycle while my anxious personality easily does. What do you guys think about this?