Mousemom, I didn't know what this "diagnosis" was, but a quick google search, and now I have a name for my own "deformity." I've had uneven hips and tilted pelvis for YEARS! It never caused me pain. My husband used to laugh at me because it appeared that my legs were different lengths. Again, never caused pain, I was active in sports, didn't even know there was a name for it!
Fast forward, a very stressful period in my life when I lost multiple family members in a short time frame, all unexpectedly, had 2 babies in 2 years, relocated, no family support system (other than my husband) and BAM, I have pain! I felt like I had been hit by a bus! Gradually, over many, many months, I have learned to dismiss muscle pain and it has faded, despite the fact that I still have this "structural abnormality." I've had MRIs, x-rays, and countless other tests looking for answers, but as soon as something was dismissed as being the culprit, the symptom faded. For instance, I had SEVERE headaches and was convinced I had a brain tumor. What else could cause such intense pain around the clock? I had a CT scan and MRI, both normal, and within a couple of weeks the headaches vanished.
As soon as a suspected cause was dismissed, the symptom faded. I still have work to do, I am stuck on nerve pain and twitching, but I know that if I stop trying to sort it out, eventually it will go. By no means is it easy, but the endless searching for answers just keeps my nervous system on high alert.
Look for SteveO's interview with Dr. Emmitt Miller. Overall a great interview, but there is a particular section where they talk about putting a "name" to something is one of the worst things that could happen for healing! You said yourself that your anxiety and fear are high and I would bet this is why you are hurting!
My two cents, forget physical therapy and try yoga. It's relaxing for the mind and strengthens the body!