So a new wrinkle has been added to my on-going TMS battle. I have a very supportive partner for the past year who has listened to me talk about TMS and explain what it is. I've shared my symptom history with him. My version shows up predominantly in my hands and mainly as a set of neurological symptoms -- burning sensations across the palm sides of my hands and pain in the fingers but no numbness or tingling and no wrist issues. I've been cleared of any signs of physical damage via x-rays and nerve conduction studies. Lately he has revealed to me that he started developing pain in his hands too. His symptoms eerily mimic my own and has started up without any obvious injury or physical cause. He has said he thinks he's developing these problems because I talk enough about my pain and that reinforces the belief that it can manifest entirely on its own. On top of that he has his own set of issues with a history of growing up in an abusive household (still caries a lot of anger over it) and lately being depressed and anxious over being unemployed and putting up with job rejections for the past 18 months. (He recently found work, thank goodness.) He hasn't read any of the Sarno books, but accepts the idea that pain can be completely psychosomatic. He doesn't feel he needs to read anything on TMS, that rather the problem would be solved by not hearing me talk about the pain I'm in. I see it as a fear response -- "if I hear about it, it makes it come true" -- and that indeed his subconscious could be turning it into a self-fulfilling prophecy by attempting to bury it. Has anyone heard of this kind of thing happening between people who share their TMS stories with others? More importantly, what can we do to be supportive of each other if he thinks the solution for his pain is to not hear about my own struggles with it?