I find it difficult to know whether it's my 'intuition' putting me off doing things and I should heed its warning, or whether it's merely the 5 year old inside me playing up and I should take no notice. But I can see that, in becoming a 'passer-by', what I decide doesn't matter all that much, not in the great scheme of things as long as the concerns that I have are addressed (e.g. like you laying down some 'ground rules' in frank discussion with your GF and keeping your financial independence)...which might prevent or help stop my TMS symptoms. It would help though if I had a religious/spiritual belief...'This world is, as it were, a bridge. Therefore, pass over it, only do not lodge there.' Thanks, @Baseball65.