This topic came out of nowhere as I was attempting to reply to a thread, but some very important things were brought up, so I thought I'd post it as a separate topic: I've struggled much over the years to figure out what love really means to me. I still haven't come to a complete answer, but the closest I've felt (for me) is acceptance. Not necessarily agreeing or having commonalities, but having a mutual acceptance of each other. I've broken off ties with some because I didn't feel that mutual acceptance, didn't feel like that other person was honestly interested in me and my life and was only keeping contact out of social norms (especially when it comes to family). I hate to say it, but I also wasn't feeling the love and decided awhile back it's not worth it to maintain those facades when it's not what is honest to my soul. I've also pondered what love "feels" like. To me, it feels effortless, organic, and natural. It's not to say there are not negative feelings, arguments, etc. But an enormous feeling of WANTING and KNOWING you will be with that person through anything. I recently broke off a best-friendship (for the 2nd time) simply because it didn't feel right. I discovered I had no interest in this person being in my life and might have been trying to maintain it simply because we've had a history together over 20+ years and that's what you do - you fight for it. And there was no other way to explain why I didn't want to be a part of her life anymore except that it FELT wrong And I have huge guilt over it. Forgiveness is also something I've pondered. I think I've only ever truly forgiven one person in my life, my mother, for her alcoholism. I suppose I have the wrong idea of what forgiveness is? To me, everyone in every relationship is doing the best they can and, to me, no one is actually wrong. Even when I've felt hurt by comments or actions, I think "they are being themselves, sharing their opinion, not meaning to hurt on purpose...they have done nothing WRONG therefore there is no reason to forgive. Plus, I'm highly sensitive and the hurt is most likely all on my end anyway." I'm not sure if this means I'm taking the blame for always being in the wrong? I suppose as a goodist, this could be true. I will ALWAYS blame myself before I blame anyone else. Because that might hurt their feelings. And, in turn, it would hurt my feelings. So what IS true forgiveness?