I have the tendency to be obsessive and am wondering if I have some form of OCD without the compulsive element. My mother and others in her family have OCD but I never seemed to have a problem until now. I've mostly used any mild obsessiveness to get things done thoroughly at home or work. For example, when I want to buy a new pair of sneakers I will research and research the right kind and will try on many kinds. It may take months until I choose the ones I want and often will give up because I can't decide or find the right pair. this is just one example. Lately, I've been obsessed with so many things that it is causing me anxiety and TMS pain in my upper back and shoulders (maybe the pain started first). I feel stressed due to of all the things I'm obsessing about. I stay up late and don't get other things done that need doing and then feel stressed about the work I haven't done. I've even been obsessing about how to deal with my anxiety and TMS. I recently ordered several new books and have been researching new techniques and it's just all getting to be too much but I can't seem to control myself or slow down. Note: I'm 49 years old and seem to be going through menopause so maybe that has something to do with it? I've had bouts of anxiety over the past few years but never had it growing up. tips and comments welcome.