Today as I was journaling I noticed there has been a bit of a trend in some of the things that give me internal rage. People have a general tendency to treat me as a child. They act very paternalistically towards me, talk down to me, and generally treat me as though I'm unable to live my life without their advice and help. This is particularly frustrating as I am actually a very successful person. At 26 I moved to the States alone for work. I knew nobody. I think it was a pretty awesome thing to do and something very few people I know have done anything so brave, yet they treat me as though I'm incapable of making even small decisions for myself. I have a PhD and am pretty knowledgable about a large number of things outside of my discipline and yet older friends and family talk to me as though I can't string two thoughts together. I've raised my kids almost alone for 7 years and my kids are freaking awesome - polite, smart, gorgeous, playful, and yet on the rare occasions we do see family they treat me as though I don't know what I'm doing. So, this frustrates me a great deal. I know they are trying to help me in their own way but I also think that many of them have their own agenda too (my mother for one, who seems to need me to be dependent on her even though I've not lived on the same continent as her for 11 years and rarely even communicate). I think really I just want these people to respect me as an equal rather than treat me like I am incapable, even though I've proved myself many times over. So, what do I do about this? How do I stop this being a problem? Just feel the anger and accept I'm going to feel it every time I see these people? Avoid them? (I know I could just tell them to stop but oh my, I just can't do that - I'm not going to offend them and risk losing people I love by asking other people to stop - it's very complicated). I think overall my concern with TMS recovery is that once we identify personality trait that contribute, I don't know what, if anything new to do about that trait - I mean, it's who I am! I can try to change but I'm pretty sure hat suppression my personality isn't the answer to preventing my inner child having rage. Seems a bit counterintuitive in fact.