I currently have diagnosed myself with tms about 2 months ago after reading dr. Sarno "healing back pain" book. I have made leaps and bounds in these last couple months and learned a lot about myself. I really didn't realize how hard I was on myself and how corrupt my mind was. I little bit about my story, I am a 30 year old that was very athletic before I got hurt. I am married with a 2.5 year old boy and another boy coming into this world next month. My tms pain is mainly in my upper back and neck area. My pain just slowly crept up on me until I finally went to the doctor because I was in so much pain and tension. Got MRI and X-rays with nothing that showed up. I couldn't figure out what was wrong me and then I feared I would never get better. Went to physical therapy for months and did get better but was not healed. I could no longer do anything enjoyed such as sports, working out, running, or hunting. I noticed my pain would lasts flare up and get worse when I was under a lot of stress. That's when I began to read Sarno books. They started helping a lot but I still have some bad days. I am beginning to accept that I have tms, but sometimes not totally positive. I am a goodist people pleaser, always want people to like me, perfectionist, worried what others think, pessimistic(always strive to do better. Never statsified), also have anxiety but that has gotten better, but still have times where I am anxious and worry a lot. I am currently having trouble with when I do make mistakes I begin to fear what's going to happen or begin to be very negative and hard on myself. Any advice or tips on how to help this? I have always struggled with not being good enough but on the outside I try to appear to be confident. My position at work is very stressful and demanding, which makes me be so hard on myself to not make any mistakes. I am also constantly comparing myself to others during these times, which I don't know why? Maybe to try and make myself feel better. I am constantly worried about people accepting me and feel like I am always trying to prove myself. I always feel like someone doesn't like me and I want everyone to like me. I would appreciate the help and input in what you all think. Once I get very anxious and worried I cannot stop it and it causes me to be anxious and worry for a couple days, but not have panic attacks. Then it gets better and the cycle starts again by some triggers later 0n. Want to know if you all think I have tms? I have learned a lot from this site and am thankful for all you do. I am also on day 17 of the SEP.