Fear of change has been one of my greatest challenges during this TMS journey. Not just the big changes, like jobs, and houses, and husbands. The hardest ones seem to be a lot smaller, and the very hardest is... shoes. While I try to avoid talking specifically about my symptoms, the ones that affect me the most are in the knees-to-toes zone. So shoes are a big deal. Over time, I've found a shoe that I like, and I've stuck with it. So you wouldn't think it would be that big a deal to replace a worn-out pair with a new pair of the exact same make, size, even the same color, right? BUT IT IS. Breaking in a new pair of shoes is very scary and triggering for me, and even the same shoe has slight differences in fit that I can feel - it's like I'm the Princess and the Pea for feet. My current pair is worn down in the heel, and just writing this post and thinking about the switch is making my heart race and my anxiety flare. In the past I've tried both a gradual acclimation to the new shoes and an abrupt, throw-the-old-ones in the-trash-on-trash-day-so-I can't-dig-them-out switcharoo. Both ways are hell. Has anyone else struggled with this? Is there an approach that will lower my fear and increase the reward factor? Like, say, an actual reward?