This question was submitted via our Ask a TMS Therapist program. To submit your question, click here. Question Recently, I have entered a serious romantic relationship. All the fears I have had about not being good enough which I had thought I had put into place have all re-surfaced. As a result, so has the pain. Intellectually, I recognize that I am afraid of getting hurt and that I am trying to ward that off either by throwing up a wall or making sure I maintain my partner's favor through some people-pleasing measures (I get caught up in what is an appropriate compromise). Any advice or questions to ask myself to help navigate this?