My physical therapist

A while back, I went to physical therapy for pain. Since I went for both knees and elbows, I was there for months. My physical therapist was a very nice woman who was my age. We became kind of friends.

When I left therapy, I kept developing pain in my spots on my body (TMS but I didn’t know that then). I’d email my therapist and she’d give me new stretches and ideas.

Eventually, I think she got sick of the fact that I wasn’t improving and told me I needed to call the office over email her directly. However, she also included in that final email that if I ever wanted to hang out and have a board game night, then I was welcome to email her for non-therapy purposes. (We had talked a number of times about having a board game night with her, her husband, and a bunch of my other friends. She was new to the area and didn’t know anyone, and we are a welcoming bunch.)

So that’s what we did and everyone had a good time at the game night.

Maybe one week after that, I discovered TMS and I never called or emailed her again. Its been about a year since I’ve talked with her.

I feel really bad about that. She’s a good person and a nice person. Her and her husband really want a game group to play board games with and I have that with my friends.

However, I kind of want to move on. It's been a year and I still feel bad that I just stopped talking to her. However, I don’t want to think about that part of my life anymore.

Thoughts?

 

Hi Waterbear. I saw a physical therapist for about 15 years. We became good friends. I think we still are good friends. But when I started working on my TMS, I really had to distance myself from her. I know in my heart, she only wants the best for me. And yet, her entire life purpose is based on another framework of thought that does not really fit in with my TMS work. We all know how challenging it is to not have doubts and although I don't think I am as susceptible as I used to be, its just not what I need right now. I personally think its okay to be a little bit self focused on our needs while we are working on and recovering from TMS. I think its fine for you to move on and not feel bad about calling her.

 

Waterbear, I like Anne's advice. No sense contacting your physical therapist and don't feel bad about it. She's probably so busy, she doesn't think about you contacting her again.