I have dozens of fear thoughts every day, I will not get good grades, my daughter will fall ill, I will get laid off, I will never recover 100%, my boss will not like my presentation, oh shit i just got pulled over by a cop what will happen now, my daughter's teacher asked me to come in and see her a week later so now i have a full week to catastrophize.. etc etc I dont leave thoughts at thoughts but catastrophize on them and build the worst possible result of it and add more fear to the TMS foundation. After reading outcome independence, I was able control the fear levels that pain symptoms brought by self talk and reading but forgot that fear of getting bad grades is no less than the fear of pain. I have not been able to recognize daily destructive thoughts unrelated to TMS and control them. Having stayed in a very physically and verbally abusive marriage for 10 years followed by 4 years of contentious famuly court battle, my neural pathways have learnt to gravitate towards fear at every small little incident on a daily basis. This causes a lot of dalily anxiety, fear, state of flight or fight and my primtive brain is in usafe mode mostly. I feel this is the main cuase of TMS symptoms for me. When me fear level for any reason (TMS related or unrelated) is high so are the TMS symptoms. How do i change the neural pathways behavior to gravitate towards fear all teh time. Trsut me things that i can worry about would seem fine and normal to my 7 year old.