Sheva
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Hi everybody!
My name is Filip and I'm from Croatia so sorry in advance for my bad English. I'm almost 28 years old and for last 2 years I'm dealing with sciatica. I signed up here to express my feelings, make a summary of my experience with pain and ask you guys for opinion and your experiences.
I'll start with my background, so if you don't want to read it all, just skip to the last part.
I grew up relatively normally and I was always a kid you'd wish for. I was great in school and really good in general. Since I lived in a small village, there was always something to do around the house and my dad is workaholic kind of guy who knows how to fix many things by himself. Since he's very nervous while he's working on something (ironically
), he never had patience to show me how to do things myself. I always served as a helper and he'd just send me to bring him tools. Partially due to that and partially due to my lack of interest for doing these things, he'd very often be really mad at me and yell at me, even slap me if he gave me some task which I couldn't solve. For example, he'd often send me to garage to bring him some tools which I didn't even know what it looks like, but I couldn't admit that because he'd yell at me. Then, I'd go to garage and try to find something, usually without success, so he'd come and yell at me that I'm not interested at all and I don't help him at all. So, even though I was really good at school, I felt unworthy because I had to listen about me not knowing anything that really matters. Maybe even that created more pressure on me to achieve success in school, where I felt "as home". Another example... When I took tests for my driving license, I failed two times and I had to listen about me not being interested into it, me being a jerk because I don't care it's expensive since my dad is paying for it, etc. Of course it wasn't true, I had some of my worst days when I failed and I really cared a lot. Later on, when I graduated in college and started working, our relationship became more normal because now we see each other few days a month and I make my own money so he knows I don't owe him anything anymore.
In 2017, just after graduation, I applied for a job of an air traffic controller. There were many exams and it was really stressful, but I was mostly good at it so it was fine. In final phase, when I really worked and had few more exams to pass, it became really stressful. There are really big expectations and whenever I made a mistake, I felt like shit because they expect you to be close to perfect. During that phase in May 2019 I went to Moscow for a soccer tournament with guys from the job. Few days before that I felt some kind of pain while doing squats in gym, but nothing hurt later on. In Moscow I felt first symptoms in my right leg. While sitting, I'd feel pressure in my calf.
In upcoming months I felt pain in my lower back, hamstring and calf while sitting and while trying to extend my right leg. I went to doctors and of course I have L4-L5 and L5-S1 disc hernia. I even tested my nerves and they were a bit harmed. I spent a lot of money on different physical treatments, but as everyone else, I felt better at that moment and pain would come back in few hours.
Summer of 2019 was really hard because I felt a lot of pain and I couldn't get days off because I had to finish my course that summer. I also started making a lot of mistakes and becoming an air traffic controller became a problem for me. Then I began thinking a lot about that, what if I fail, I can't let myself fail, etc. Finally, in the end of the summer i finished all of my exams and finally became an ATC. I also went to gym regularly and my symptoms were under control. I felt pain in my hamstring and calf, but nothing so strong that I couldn't live with it. Interesting, whenever I had days off and when I was on vacation, my symptoms were almost gone.
In February 2020 I met my girlfriend and hopefully my future wife, who helps me a lot with my symptoms and she is full of understanding. Then corona pandemic happened and my symptoms were almost ok. Probably because lack of stress at work (no planes in the air), good relationship with my girlfriend and living non-stressful life. Still, I thought it could be better and I kept looking for solutions.
In November 2020 I found out about TMS and completely found myself in characteristics. I read Healing back pain by dr. Sarno and it was an eye opener for me. I tried to play soccer, squash, walk more and live normally, but I still felt pain and it was hard for me to just live on. It's pretty hard to pretend everything is normal when you can't bend over with your legs straight. Then I found myself a counselor who helped me with realizing I'm perfectionist and trying to get rid of it. She convinced me to try meditations and I'm helpful for it.
In February I had another flare-up after gym workout (on that same day I had some bad situation at work), so I decided to find another PT. This time, this guy told me about importance of workout and sleeping, reducing stress etc. It was good for some time, but then I had another flare-up and now I'm sick of it. I bought myself dr. Schubiner's Unlearn your pain and I decided to start with the 28-days-program. To be honest, I actually expected literally "1) do this, 2) do that, 3)... " but I'll try to sort something out for myself.
To conclude: I was raised by really strict dad (mom was really nice) and I always felt pressure coming from him. My symptoms started while taking exams for becoming air traffic controller. I feel pain in my right calf, hamstring, butt and lower back, but rarely everywhere at once. It's usually in one or two parts. I decided to start with Unlearn your pain 28 day program.
Thanks for listening and thanks in advance for all your advices
I'm open for all kind of questions.
My name is Filip and I'm from Croatia so sorry in advance for my bad English. I'm almost 28 years old and for last 2 years I'm dealing with sciatica. I signed up here to express my feelings, make a summary of my experience with pain and ask you guys for opinion and your experiences.
I'll start with my background, so if you don't want to read it all, just skip to the last part.
I grew up relatively normally and I was always a kid you'd wish for. I was great in school and really good in general. Since I lived in a small village, there was always something to do around the house and my dad is workaholic kind of guy who knows how to fix many things by himself. Since he's very nervous while he's working on something (ironically
), he never had patience to show me how to do things myself. I always served as a helper and he'd just send me to bring him tools. Partially due to that and partially due to my lack of interest for doing these things, he'd very often be really mad at me and yell at me, even slap me if he gave me some task which I couldn't solve. For example, he'd often send me to garage to bring him some tools which I didn't even know what it looks like, but I couldn't admit that because he'd yell at me. Then, I'd go to garage and try to find something, usually without success, so he'd come and yell at me that I'm not interested at all and I don't help him at all. So, even though I was really good at school, I felt unworthy because I had to listen about me not knowing anything that really matters. Maybe even that created more pressure on me to achieve success in school, where I felt "as home". Another example... When I took tests for my driving license, I failed two times and I had to listen about me not being interested into it, me being a jerk because I don't care it's expensive since my dad is paying for it, etc. Of course it wasn't true, I had some of my worst days when I failed and I really cared a lot. Later on, when I graduated in college and started working, our relationship became more normal because now we see each other few days a month and I make my own money so he knows I don't owe him anything anymore.In 2017, just after graduation, I applied for a job of an air traffic controller. There were many exams and it was really stressful, but I was mostly good at it so it was fine. In final phase, when I really worked and had few more exams to pass, it became really stressful. There are really big expectations and whenever I made a mistake, I felt like shit because they expect you to be close to perfect. During that phase in May 2019 I went to Moscow for a soccer tournament with guys from the job. Few days before that I felt some kind of pain while doing squats in gym, but nothing hurt later on. In Moscow I felt first symptoms in my right leg. While sitting, I'd feel pressure in my calf.
In upcoming months I felt pain in my lower back, hamstring and calf while sitting and while trying to extend my right leg. I went to doctors and of course I have L4-L5 and L5-S1 disc hernia. I even tested my nerves and they were a bit harmed. I spent a lot of money on different physical treatments, but as everyone else, I felt better at that moment and pain would come back in few hours.
Summer of 2019 was really hard because I felt a lot of pain and I couldn't get days off because I had to finish my course that summer. I also started making a lot of mistakes and becoming an air traffic controller became a problem for me. Then I began thinking a lot about that, what if I fail, I can't let myself fail, etc. Finally, in the end of the summer i finished all of my exams and finally became an ATC. I also went to gym regularly and my symptoms were under control. I felt pain in my hamstring and calf, but nothing so strong that I couldn't live with it. Interesting, whenever I had days off and when I was on vacation, my symptoms were almost gone.
In February 2020 I met my girlfriend and hopefully my future wife, who helps me a lot with my symptoms and she is full of understanding. Then corona pandemic happened and my symptoms were almost ok. Probably because lack of stress at work (no planes in the air), good relationship with my girlfriend and living non-stressful life. Still, I thought it could be better and I kept looking for solutions.
In November 2020 I found out about TMS and completely found myself in characteristics. I read Healing back pain by dr. Sarno and it was an eye opener for me. I tried to play soccer, squash, walk more and live normally, but I still felt pain and it was hard for me to just live on. It's pretty hard to pretend everything is normal when you can't bend over with your legs straight. Then I found myself a counselor who helped me with realizing I'm perfectionist and trying to get rid of it. She convinced me to try meditations and I'm helpful for it.
In February I had another flare-up after gym workout (on that same day I had some bad situation at work), so I decided to find another PT. This time, this guy told me about importance of workout and sleeping, reducing stress etc. It was good for some time, but then I had another flare-up and now I'm sick of it. I bought myself dr. Schubiner's Unlearn your pain and I decided to start with the 28-days-program. To be honest, I actually expected literally "1) do this, 2) do that, 3)... " but I'll try to sort something out for myself.
To conclude: I was raised by really strict dad (mom was really nice) and I always felt pressure coming from him. My symptoms started while taking exams for becoming air traffic controller. I feel pain in my right calf, hamstring, butt and lower back, but rarely everywhere at once. It's usually in one or two parts. I decided to start with Unlearn your pain 28 day program.
Thanks for listening and thanks in advance for all your advices
I'm open for all kind of questions.
