"If a person has a lot of current stress in their life, what are some ways they can simplify their life?"
I want to answer to this question from my own experience. One day I came across a statement, which made so much sense to me, after surviving tons of personal traumatic life events: "Trauma is the emotional and then the biological response of an individual to an overwhelming stressful event. So trauma is not the stress or event that happened to us itself, it’s our psychological and then the body’s reaction to that stress. And not only in the moment when the "awful thing" happened, our soul and body continue to respond in such ways to a similar situations or reminders, which we call triggers".
How many times we look back and think "why did I respond so heavily to a such stupid thing?" - as we grow and learn from life, we become more resilient and strong and event that was unbearable to us in our twenties, seems totally doable in our thirties. With this mind I want to encourage myself and people who are in current stress to know that everything will pass, and maybe sooner than we think, and very much likely in some time it will not be so meaningful to us anymore. At the end you are left with you soul and body, just the way you came into this world.
So the job is to not let an event (that will pass and most likely be unimportant soon) do harm to my soul and body, so that I'll have to deal with consequences for many years after.
There are some techniques that can help do it:
- except it as a trial from God, and hand over to Him all of yourself and your life and stop worry;
- downplay the significance of an event;
- see yourself through the prism of your entire life, where the current event is just a page in you story of life
- focus on people who are in much worse situation than you and try to help or serve them (shifting focus from yourself to others who are in need can help a lot)
P.S. This approach is a conscious way of surviving stressful events. It cannot undo the previous traumas, neither can it help rewire the brain from them. But it can certainly help one to not get a new trauma, or at least decrease a level of harm from it.
I want to answer to this question from my own experience. One day I came across a statement, which made so much sense to me, after surviving tons of personal traumatic life events: "Trauma is the emotional and then the biological response of an individual to an overwhelming stressful event. So trauma is not the stress or event that happened to us itself, it’s our psychological and then the body’s reaction to that stress. And not only in the moment when the "awful thing" happened, our soul and body continue to respond in such ways to a similar situations or reminders, which we call triggers".
How many times we look back and think "why did I respond so heavily to a such stupid thing?" - as we grow and learn from life, we become more resilient and strong and event that was unbearable to us in our twenties, seems totally doable in our thirties. With this mind I want to encourage myself and people who are in current stress to know that everything will pass, and maybe sooner than we think, and very much likely in some time it will not be so meaningful to us anymore. At the end you are left with you soul and body, just the way you came into this world.
So the job is to not let an event (that will pass and most likely be unimportant soon) do harm to my soul and body, so that I'll have to deal with consequences for many years after.
There are some techniques that can help do it:
- except it as a trial from God, and hand over to Him all of yourself and your life and stop worry;
- downplay the significance of an event;
- see yourself through the prism of your entire life, where the current event is just a page in you story of life
- focus on people who are in much worse situation than you and try to help or serve them (shifting focus from yourself to others who are in need can help a lot)
P.S. This approach is a conscious way of surviving stressful events. It cannot undo the previous traumas, neither can it help rewire the brain from them. But it can certainly help one to not get a new trauma, or at least decrease a level of harm from it.